Tips on how to handle gossipers!


Psalm 101:5-8 (KJV) Whoso privily slandereth his neighbour, him will I cut off: him that hath an high look and a proud heart will not I suffer. Mine eyes shall be upon the faithful of the land, that they may dwell with me: he that walketh in a perfect way, he shall serve me. He that worketh deceit shall not dwell within my house: he that telleth lies shall not tarry in my sight. I will early destroy all the wicked of the land; that I may cut off all wicked doers from the city of the Lord.

Sometimes we tolerate things outside our homes that we know are wrong. Has a workmate or acquaintance ever talked badly about someone and maybe you joined in? Yes, of course you have.  Sometimes you feel awkward and at loss for words or you just do not know how to handle the situation.

The very best way to handle gossipers or troublemakers is simply speak up.  You might say something like, “I would rather not talk about this” or “she is a good friend and I’m uncomfortable with this conversation” or simply say “let’s talk about something else”. Sometimes you might just change the subject yourself without commenting on the gossip.  If you do not feel comfortable with gossipers and do not want to speak up, then you need to walk away when conversations turn to gossip.

In Psalm 101:5-8 God comes right out and tells us He does not like slanderers, the proud, the deceitful or liars. He said he will cut them off.  We too should cut them off.  We should lead by example and not be sucked into bad conversations.  We should seek out other faithful people and hang out with them. You might say that is rude!  Not if you do it right.  You don’t want to be condescending, because you want others to see Jesus in you. You need to be friendly, but not participate in gossip.

It has always amazed me that people confide their most private secrets with gossips.  It’s true that most deceitful people are very personable and outgoing.  They seem like they are your very best friend and they trust only you with their juicy tidbits.   Are you really that gullible?  If they are telling you things about other supposedly friends, then you better believe they are also telling others about your secrets.

There is an old and very true saying, “If you don’t have anything good to say, then don’t say anything at all”. 

We as Christians should uplift and edify each other.  I hope we will search our souls and spread love and truth.  Let’s not be talebearers, but bearers of love.  May we act more like Jesus and less like Satan!

I’m sure many of you have had experience with gossips & troublemakers.  I’ve only listed a few ideas.  What advice would you give Christians, to help them handle these types of situations in  their homes, and in public.


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